Seduction is a gradual process, you rush it; you seem desperate and in a hurry, your target will be suspicious and will ditch you before you make a place for yourself in her heart. Anti-seducers are insecure and make others feel uncomfortable and uneasy. In seduction, providing pleasure is important, nobody is going to stay with you if you inflict pain on them and constantly share bad news one after another since people are not interested to hear your boring stories all the time, they want happiness and peace. The anti-seducers argue; they are extremely judgmental; pay little attention to details and always make mistakes.

“Seducers draw you in by the focused, individualized attention they pay to you. Anti-Seducers are the opposite: insecure, self-absorbed, and unable to grasp the psychology of another person, they literally repel. Anti-Seducers have no self-awareness, and never realize when they are pestering, imposing, talking too much. They lack the subtlety to create the promise of pleasure that seduction requires. Root out anti-seductive qualities in yourself, and recognize them in others—there is no pleasure or profit in dealing with the Anti-Seducer.”


  • Anti-seducers are insecure that push people.
  • Anti-seducers argue over trivial things.
  • Anti-seducers are judgmental.
  • Anti-seducers are lost in their own worlds; they do not pay attention to details.


The anti-seducer is always insecure, and insecurity makes others insecure and uncomfortable. He/she always complains and whines and hardly shares positive things. It is hard to spend time with someone who is lost in his own fantasy world and seems distant all the time. People who do not listen carefully cannot carefully attend to the subtle details about the other person that reveals a lot about her. An anti-seducer is not a good listener; people in his company get bored and cannot wait to leave him. People want to spend time with someone who can listen to them and make them feel at ease.

“Impatience has the opposite effect: assuming you are so interested in them you have no rea[1]son to wait, Brutes offend you with their egotism. Underneath that egotism, too, there is often a gnawing sense of inferiority, and if you spurn them or make them wait, they overreact.”

Arguing with unusual tenacity:

Anti-seducers argue over trivial things; they create problems unnecessary. Arguing is really an anti-seductive quality, people hate to spend time with a person who always argues and whines. In seduction, you need to let the other person talk, and when she feels comfortable with you, she will talk and share her problems with you, but she will push you if you fight over little things, and give her unnecessary advice, acting as if you know everything, though you are making a fool of yourself in her eyes.

“To be so admired may give a momentary boost to your ego, but deep inside you sense that their intense emotions are not related to anything you have done.”

Excessively judgmental:

One of the bad qualities of anti-seducers is that they are extremely judgmental. People are irritated when they are told they live their lives according to someone’s rules, and this is what anti-seducers do they tell people that they should wear that dress; they should talk this way; they should wear light makeup; they should not go to parties—and people get bored listening to them all them and get tired of their judgments since everyone wants to live his life following his own rules and principles, even a child does not like when he is told you should change your dress since it does suit him.

“These are people who follow fixed ideas and try to make you bend to their standards. They want to change you, to make you a better person, so they endlessly criticize and judge—that is their pleasure in life. In truth, their moral ideas stem from their own unhappiness, and mask their desire to dominate those around them.”

Pay no attention to details:

Seduction is about reading the person and paying attention to details. Anti-seducers are lost in their own worlds and have no time to pay attention to details such as a glimpse of love, a change in behavior, a romantic gesture, or clues that the other person gives that he/she is interested. Anti-seducers push people and when they feel they are not interested, they get ahead and ditch them.


Anti-seducers are good-looking, rich, and intelligent, but they do not know the language of seduction. They are either in a hurry or they are lost in their own worlds; they make terrible mistakes while rushing things; they do not pay attention to subtle clues.

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