The Charmer and His/her Seductive Qualities

Charmers attract people towards themselves by adapting to their moods; they make people happy and smile; they do not complain and whine. When they feel people the other person is involved emotionally, they get what they are after.

“Charm is seduction without sex. Charmers are consummate manipulators, masking their cleverness by creating a mood of pleasure and comfort. Their method is simple: they deflect attention from themselves and focus it on their target. They understand your spirit, feel your pain, adapt to your moods. In the presence of a Charmer you feel better about yourself. Charmers do not argue or fight, complain, or pester—what could be more seductive? By drawing you in with their indulgence they make you dependent on them, and their power grows. Learn to cast the Charmer’s spell by aiming at people’s primary weaknesses: vanity and self-esteem.”

Key Points:

  • Make her the center of attention and feel her superior.
  • Provide pleasure and avoid arguments.
  • Give her comfort and listen to her problem.

Make your target the center of attention:

The Charmer focuses on his target and notes everything about her. Once your target feels that you are paying attention to her, that you are obsessed with her, you get into her mind. In seduction, getting into someone’s mind is crucial since if she is not able to think about you, no matter how hard you try, your efforts are useless. The Charmer solely focuses on her and notes what she misses in her life and provides it, but he makes it subtle.

“Let your targets talk, revealing themselves in the process. As you find out more about them—their strengths, and more important their weaknesses—you can individualize your attention, appealing to their specific desires and needs, tailoring your flatteries to their insecurities.”

Be a source of pleasure:

Nobody likes to hear about your problems and complaints, everyone has his own problems. The Charmer listens to her problems; he changes her thoughts and provides pleasures; he hardly shares his problems, instead listening to her complaints. People are getting busier in life, and they need someone to listen to them, and Charmer chooses the one he wants to seduce and charm. Pleasure is what people lack in their life, and Charmer provides it; he stays active and energetic; he smiles and makes fun to make her feel at ease.

“An energetic presence is likewise more charming than lethargy, which hints at boredom, an enormous social taboo; and elegance and style will usually win out over vulgarity, since most people like to associate themselves with whatever they think elevated and cultured.”

Bring antagonism into harmony:

Arguments and reasoning are anti-seductive and kill the charm of a relationship. The Charmer has learned how to avoid disputes and if he gets into arguments, he cleverly changes them into harmony. Nobody wants to fight over trivial things; people love peace and harmony but are too busy with routine and suppressed thoughts and resentments, and people lash out and take their frustrations on others. The charmers know how to deal with arguments and control others.

“Never stir up antagonisms that will prove immune to your charm; in the face of those who are aggressive, retreat, let them have their little victories.”

Lull your victims into ease and comfort:

People get bored in life due to following the same routines and dealing with some nasty people daily; they seek comfort and ease. The Charmer provides comfort to his target and makes her feel at ease. The feeling of being home in someone’s arms is magical, and such feelings are emanating from Charmer: he is harmless and comfortable. The Charmer lets her feel that he is her image mirror, and people want to spend their time with that person who has the same qualities as them.

“The key to making your victims feel comfortable is to mirror them, adapt to their mood.”


The Charmer makes her target the center of attention and makes her feel at ease and comfortable in his presence; he listens to her problems and diverts her thoughts into other directions— providing pleasures—that she loves since she feels wonderful forgetting about her problems while smiling.


  1. Robert, G. (2001). The art of seduction.

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