The Natural has the qualities of children: sincerity, loyalty, spontaneity, and innocence. An adult who has such qualities attract others towards himself owing to his/her harmless nature. The Natural seducer is rare in the technology era since everyone has some problems to deal with, and naturalness is very rare.
“Childhood is the golden paradise we are always consciously or unconsciously trying to re-create. The Natural embodies the longed for qualities of childhood—spontaneity, sincerity, unpretentiousness. In the presence of Naturals, we feel at ease, caught up in their playful spirit, transported back to that golden age. Naturals also make a virtue out of weakness, eliciting our sympathy for their trials, making us want to protect them and help them. As with a child, much of this is natural, but some of it is exaggerated, a conscious seductive maneuver. Adopt the pose of the Natural to neutralize people’s natural defensiveness and infect them with helpless delight.”
Key Points:
- The Natural seducer is harmless and trustworthy.
- The Natural seducer is spontaneous.
- Being defensive is anti-seductive.
Unthreatening and human:
The Natural seducer is harmless and attracts people through his sincerity and loyalty. People have ulterior motives and almost everyone gets close to others for his benefit. On the other hand, the Natural seducer appears as if he does not have any ulterior motives, he is immaculate and as innocent as a child which makes him trustworthy and loyal. People are getting paranoid; they cannot trust easily other people since they do not know them while the Natural seducer can be easily trusted since he/she appears trustworthy and honest because of his acts.
The innocent:
The Natural seducer looks innocent and acts as if what he had done was not his fault since he was not aware of such consequences. He would exaggerate his stupid acts to elicit sympathy. Being natural and spontaneous makes him lovable and easily forgivable.
“The misunderstandings come from the child’s not knowing about good and evil, and seeing everything through uncorrupted eyes. The weakness of children elicits sympathy, their misunderstandings make us laugh, and nothing is more seductive than a mixture of laughter and sympathy.”
The Impish:
The Natural seducer does not care to offend people and maintains his spontaneity and freedom, and the people around them are secretly jealous to have such freedom and spontaneity. The Natural does not apologize when making a mistake, rather acts as if it was not his mistake and he had no knowledge about it. By being playful and having the qualities of a child, people love his presence and let him be around since everyone is getting bored in their busy life and longs for some entertainment and fun.
“Impish children have a fearlessness that we adults have lost. That is because they do not see the possible consequences of their actions—how some people might be offended, how they might physically hurt themselves in the process.”
The wonder:
The Natural seducer has the spontaneity of a child and completes his difficult tasks in no time, hiding his sweat behind the hard work. He does things effortlessly, in a new and efficient way. Such qualities make him the center of attention.
“A wonder child has a special, inexplicable talent: a gift for music, for mathematics, for chess, for sport. At work in the field in which they have such prodigal skill, these children seem possessed, and their actions effortless.”
The undefensive lover:
One of the positive traits of the Natural seducer is that he does not defend himself since defensiveness is very anti-seductive, rather he bends to her differences and lowers her resistance. Arguments repel people, people lack pleasure in their lives, and the job of a seducer is to provide pleasure, not inflict pain.
“Undefensive lovers have somehow circumvented the self-protective process, retaining the playful, receptive spirit of the child.”
Conclusion:
The Natural seducer wins hearts by adopting the qualities of a child; he is sincere and kind; he is harmless and sweet. He does not get into arguments, tends to avoid arguments, and provides pleasure. The Natural seducer is rare since everyone is busy in life.
References:
- Robert, G. (2001). The art of seduction.