Being nice makes us an easy target to those who are good at manipulating and deceiving people, in order to face people who are aggressive, you need to let them know that you also have dark sides that can hurt them badly. People have ulterior motives, and they will cross your path someday in the future, you need to be smart enough to catch them before they have done their job and have got what they were after.
“YOU WILL ALWAYS FIND YOURSELF AMONG THE AGGRESSIVE AND THE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE WHO SEEK TO HARM YOU IN SOME WAY. YOU MUST GET OVER ANY GENERAL FEARS YOU HAVE OF CONFRONTING PEOPLE OR YOU WILL FIND IT EXTREMELY DIFFICULT TO ASSERT YOURSELF IN THE FACE OF THOSE WHO ARE MORE CUNNING AND RUTHLESS. BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE YOU MUST MASTER THE ART OF KNOWING WHEN AND HOW TO BE BAD—USING DECEPTION, MANIPULATION, AND OUTRIGHT FORCE AT THE APPROPRIATE MOMENTS. EVERYONE OPERATES WITH A FLEXIBLE MORALITY WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR SELF-INTEREST—YOU ARE SIMPLY MAKING THIS MORE CONSCIOUS AND EFFECTIVE.”
Grab what you want:
People get emotional and dramatic in life, and the easy target to be used is the “too nice” and “too emotional”. The easiest way to achieve something great in life is to distract people with something strange and phenomenal, involve them in an emotional drama while they are busy sorting things out, you just strike and grab what you are after.
“You distract people with something dramatic and emotional, and while they are not paying attention to you, you grab what you want.”
Be aggressive:
It is not easy to get what you want in life, there are people who will surely block your way and hinder your path to success. Staying quiet and begging won’t help you, sometimes you should show outright hostility and aggressiveness to clear your way and grab what you desired. It is unfair to let someone block your way just because he has aggressive and strong, you should kill aggression with aggression sometimes to achieve your goals.
“Talent and good intentions are never enough in this world; you need to be fearless and strategic. When you face people’s indifference or outright hostility you have to get aggressive and push them out of your way by any means necessary, and not worry about some people disliking you.”
Overcome your fear:
Confronting people is challenging when there is fear in our hearts since fear controls everything. Being afraid of consequences makes us more scared and skittish and we grieve in silence under the rule of a tyrant. It would be best if you kept it in mind that the person I am facing is as immortal as me, and I don’t deserve to be treated this way. We stay quiet because of our fears, and the “too nice” have deep fears and suffer throughout their life.
“When you feel weak and afraid, you have the sense that you cannot handle any kind of confrontation. You might fall apart or lose control or get hurt.”
Get active:
Being lazy lags us behind in life speedily, getting active means making some noise and confronting people who try to control your life. Let your enemies know there is no force that can stop me from achieving your goals. Observe your surroundings and be cautious about who is with you and who is against you. Be clever to catch the enemy in the guise of a friend. “If you have dreams and ambitions, you know that to realize them you have to get active, make some noise, bruise a few people in your path.”
Be different:
Caring about people’s opinions and pleasing people is the hardest thing to do. You should develop your own charisma and style, and let people talk about you and this will make you more famous and enigmatic. You should be proud of your acts and pursue what you are after if you believe it is worth pursuing.
“He didn’t care if people thought he was different—he was proud of it.”
Conclusion:
Being too nice to people, and they would push you and take you for granted. In life, you need to show people your dark sides who humiliate you and push you away, not letting you get what you deserve. Be aggressive often and grab what you are after. You need to overcome your fear of facing people since they will block your path in one way or another, and if you are timid and shy, you will have to pay a heavy price in the future owing to your cowardness and quietness.
References:
- Greene, R. (2010). The 50th law (Vol. 1). Profile Books.